Text Him This Not That

The easiest answer to this first text question is sort of a mainstay rule - wait three days.

Stay light and friendly and let things take their natural course.

What I want you to learn from them, though, is that they're light and friendly. There is no accusation, no negative emotions, just passing comments to stir his interest.

If you follow the guidelines in this book and he doesn't chase, then you are done with him. Go to option #2 or enjoy being single until option #2 arrives!

Get busy, go take a class somewhere. Take a mini vacation or go away for the weekend with your friends. Do something besides beg.

Put in as much effort into him as he is putting into you. . .or less!

Having hobbies, pursuing your passions and having a good circle of friends all helps you be in a constant growth phase. You're trying new things, meeting new people and not allowing your mind to go idle.

Women and men express emotion differently, regardless of what emotion it is. Men express love by doing things or fixing things or providing things. Women express love through their words or nurturing. Sadly, they expect men to express their love through words as well.

Rather than assume a man is just making excuses not to be with you, assume he is telling the truth. Should you find evidence later that he was lying, deal with it then. Making assumptions, based on your own insecurities, only leads you down a dark and ugly path.

The key for you in initiating these conversations is to remain relaxed and playful. If you make an attempt and he doesn't respond in a way which allows you to continue prompting him for a date, let it go and try again another time. Other opportunities will come along, or he may even respond later with an idea based on that conversation.

You and I both know this was really you being in charge, but does he?

Nope!

He walks away thinking he planned everything and is feeling good about himself and you.