She Comes First

My chief occupation, despite appearances, has always been love.”

—Albert Camus

bottle of Viognier from the Condrieu region in France

2. After the first kiss, lick her vaginal entrance from top to bottom, and then rest your tongue flat against the surface of her vulva. Do this fifteen to twenty times.
3. Next, lick her five times with halfway strokes, focusing on the labia and staying clear of the head. On the sixth stroke, finish the movement and press the soft tip of your tongue into her head.
4. Repeat this pattern, increasing each set of halfway licks by one until you get to ten.
5. Use this routine to establish rhythm and acclimate the head to the attentions of your tongue.

try the extra-hot works of writer/illustrator Eric Stanton, who specializes in female-domination fantasies.

Venus and Little Birds; the erotic novels Emanuelle by Emanuelle Arsan and Story of O by Pauline Réage; Harold Brodkey’s sexual saga “Innocence”

The Thousand and One Nights and incorporate a story into foreplay. If you’re not a born storyteller, try reading one aloud together. Some literary recommendations: James Salter’s erotic masterpiece, A Sport and a Pastime; Anais Nin’s collections of short stories Delta of

Three Assurances of the cunnilinguist manifesto are as follows:
•Going down on her turns you on; you enjoy it as much as she does.
•There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savor every moment.
•Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful: it all emanates from the same beautiful essence.

our fluids are meant to mingle, we long for this mingling that is both so outrageous and pure.

One should not make more assumptions than are absolutely necessary.”

All in all, it does not appear that ejaculation, voluntary or involuntary, does much to enhance the pleasure of orgasm.